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Topics: Sex and Relationships, YouTube, Podcast
Ella Scott
Topics: Sex and Relationships, YouTube, Podcast
A New York City divorce attorney has unveiled two of the most common reasons couples decide to split.
Forbes says the more times you’ve been married, the more likely you are to file for divorce.
Statistics claim that 43 percent of first marriages will be dissolved while the rate for second (60 percent) and third marriages (73 percent) are much higher.
Those looking to get out often employ lawyers such as James Sexton - a media personality who claims he hears two main reasons for spousal breakdowns.
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Revealing all, Sexton took to Steven Bartlett’s The Diary Of A CEO podcast on May 20 and said women and men exhibit very different intimate requirements.
“Men usually want more sex, women want more quality sex,” he told the 31-year-old host.
“Men are quantity-based, it’s the same reason that pornography is more popular with men than women.
“I think men are like, ‘I need to get the poison out of my system here I have to get on with my day’.”
Furthermore, he suggested that struggling married couples should ‘pay attention’ to each other more.
He said men could express their feelings better and remind their spouses how deep their affection runs by writing love notes.
Sexton also stated there are two common reasons couples divorce; infidelity and money.
He said that many blame separation on disloyalty; an ‘oversimplification’ in his eyes.
He claimed that cheating was ‘just a component’ in the break-up and that differences between the couple usually lead to infidelity.
Moreover, the leading NYC attorney said that money can affect a relationship as it is all ‘about control’.
“Money is about opportunity, security, it’s about a whole bunch of things, but it’s not really about money,” Sexton explained.
“Money is just a currency that we trade, so I think money has a whole bunch of complicated stuff tied up in it. People are dishonest with themselves and with money.”
Last year, Sexton appeared on Lex Fridman’s popular podcast to explain frequent issues he’s seen included in prenuptial agreements.
Essentially a marriage contract, a prenup records the ownership of assets and outlines what will happen to them if proceeding with a divorce.
He said that people adding fidelity and sunset clauses to their agreements is a mistake.
The latter usually specifies a deadline on which the prenup will automatically terminate, while a ‘no-cheating’ clause lists what will happen if a partner is unfaithful during the marriage.
“I know the intention is to disincentivize the person from cheating,” Sexton told Fridman, 40.
“But all it really does is just creates like an interesting legal battle for lawyers.
“Like, how did you prove that they cheated or not? Is an emotional affair an affair? Is oral sex cheating? And by the way - how do you prove it?”