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Expert reveals the specific phrases that will let you know a woman is 'not that into you'
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Published 19:19 9 Apr 2025 GMT+1

Expert reveals the specific phrases that will let you know a woman is 'not that into you'

You're probably guilty of or have heard quite a few...

Poppy Bilderbeck

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Topics: Sex and Relationships, TikTok, Social Media

Poppy Bilderbeck
Poppy Bilderbeck

Poppy Bilderbeck is a freelance journalist with words in Daily Express, Cosmopolitan UK, LADbible, UNILAD and Tyla. She is a former Senior Journalist at LADbible Group. She graduated from The University of Manchester in 2021 with a First in English Literature and Drama, where alongside her studies she was Editor-in-Chief of The Tab Manchester. Poppy is most comfortable when chatting about all things mental health, is proving a drama degree is far from useless by watching and reviewing as many TV shows and films as possible.

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A dating coach has revealed the four phrases often heard spoken by women which can sometimes hold a hidden true meaning underneath.

Unfortunately, rather than simply saying it how it is and communicating honestly, it can feel awkward turning down a date or rejecting the advances of a friend and there are certain phrases women may use to let someone down gently.

Dating coach and TikToker Blaine Anderson has revealed five phrases women commonly use and explained why they can often be multilayered and not quite mean what they say on the surface.

Men, if you thought women revealing what they consider 'actually' makes 'men good in bed' was a shock, well, strap in and prepare to have even more lightbulb moments of realization.

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In a video shared onto her page on April 5, the title reads: "Things girls say vs. what they actually mean..."

And first up is one which may hit you where it hurts, words which you may've heard in your past and not realized the true significance of.

"I don't want to ruin our friendship"

Alas, while they may indeed have been worried about ruining the friendship in the way of not offending you, what this really means according to Blaine is: "I'm not attracted to you but you're my friend and I don't want to hurt your feelings."

If they really wanted to, they would, and they'd want to test it out even if it meant risking the friendship because who wants to look back with regrets?

So, if they're saying it's because they don't want to jeopardise the friendship, take this as a polite way of saying they simply don't see you like that.

And next up is the excuse as old as time - and also not just used by women.

She just doesn't see you in that way... Sorry (Getty Stock Images)
She just doesn't see you in that way... Sorry (Getty Stock Images)

"I'm so bad at texting"

Anderson reveals what this truly means is: "I'm not really interested and I'm only responding to be polite."

Certainly not exclusive to women, rather than simply stating we're not that interested, many of us hope and pray if our replies are as slow as a tortoise then the chat may simply fizzle out.

In reality, just cut the cord and tell them - it's only fair or wastes not only your time but theirs too.

"I don't post who I date on social media."

Last but certainly not least, is social media coming in to threaten the happiness of relationships yet again.

While social media is wonderful in so many ways, it poses even more challenges to relationships - whether it be followers, their 'For You' page or whether your significant other posts you or not.

According to Anderson, if they say they 'don't post who [they] date on social media, it really means: "I don't want people to know we're dating. At least, not yet."

However, there is a positive message to end on a good note.



"You're funny"

Anderson says this comment is often genuine, signalling: "I like this conversation keep it going."

But did they say 'aha' or 'haha' - I'll just let you sit there and panic over that one for a bit.

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