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Gerrard Kaonga
A relationship psychologist has broken down some key signs that could mean you might need to have a tough talk about seeing different people.
Making relationships work is.... well, it's a lot of work, and sometimes you don’t get that happily ever after and have to part ways.
While it can be sad, it can also be a great time for growth, reevaluation and ultimately, realizing you want something different. But before you can get to the part of growth, it's important to recognize the signs that things aren’t going to work out.
Speaking to the Metro, relationship psychologist and dating expert Dr Lalitaa Suglani, noted it is often time to call it quits when 'the connection you share with the other person is no longer bringing growth, joy, or a sense of partnership'.
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She also went into greater details about some misconceptions people have when it comes to break ups.
She said: "Many people assume it’s always about conflict or not getting on, but often it’s simply that the relationship has fulfilled its purpose and come to a natural close.
"Two people may no longer be on the same path, and the bond that once felt alive now feels stagnant or misaligned with who they have become as their authentic selves."
So, here are the four signs according to the expert.
While you might spend time together often, or even enjoy time together, you might find yourself becoming more emotionally distant.
Suglani said: "[This might look like not] feeling emotionally close or invested in the other person. They may no longer feel like a priority in your life and attempts to rebuild intimacy fall flat. The distance between you feels less like a rough patch and is no longer a genuine connection."
Now, this one can be a difficult to admit to yourself, but it definitely a sign worth looking into as it can be tied to your overall happiness as a person and in the relationship.
Suglani noted this sign means your values, goals or future plans are no longer aligning.
She said: "Without shared growth or purpose, the connection stops supporting your authentic selves."
It can sometimes feel easier to just continue to go along with the relationship because it's easier but deep down you might not truly care.
The expert noted that feeling indifferent to spending time with them could be a big sign that something isn’t right, whether you have realized it or not. This can stem from your partner’s presence feeling like an obligation rather than a choice, according to the doctor.
She said this can arise when the 'natural pull towards each other fades, leaving a lack of genuine closeness'.
This one is pretty straight forward, the other signs and issues often results in this final symptom: You simply no longer feel joy being in this relationship.
Suglani continued: "You cannot remember the last time you truly enjoyed each other’s company. Shared experiences feel flat, and the warmth that once came from authentic connection has disappeared."
All the same, while it might be an idea to call it quits if you notice these signs, it is always worth having a conversation about it with your partner and potentially seeking professional help and support.