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Gerrard Kaonga
Topics: News, Sex and Relationships, Community
A relationship expert admitted that there are clear red flags people shouldn’t ignore regardless of the level of attraction and overall chemistry.
Making a relationship work at the best of times can prove to be difficult because... well, people are complicated.
Even if you do find the right person, it simply might not be the right time for either one of you to enter into a relationship, so things ultimately don’t work out.
If you are lucky enough to find someone you wish to call your partner, they are never going to be perfect and that is perfectly fine, so ignoring some of their less-awesome qualities is perfectly normal.
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However, a relationship expert has warned that there are some things that simply shouldn’t be ignored and these ‘red flags’ might indicate that, despite how things might currently seem, you aren’t actually compatible with one another.
Relationship expert at dating app Happn, Claire Rénier, spoke to UNILAD about what these red flags are and how to spot them.
She said: “Early attraction can easily mask differences in how people approach finances, family or political views, but these differing views tend to surface over time.
“One of the clearest red flags is a fundamental misalignment in values.
“If you repeatedly find yourselves disagreeing on what matters most, or compromising in ways that feel uncomfortable, it may be a sign that long-term, authentic compatibility is lacking, even if your chemistry isn’t.”
Rénier also noted that it is normal for couples to disagree and argue from time to time but how these situations are handled could be very telling about whether the relationship will last.
She continued: “Another warning sign is if one partner constantly avoids deeper conversations, dismisses the other’s feelings, or struggles to show empathy when times are tough. The relationship can start to feel one-sided, and unbalanced.”
She emphasized that overall compatibility isn’t about never disagreeing, but rather feeling emotionally understood and supported.
Regarding another red flag sign, Rénier tied it back into how arguments are dealt with.
She said: “Finally, pay attention to how you resolve disagreements. If arguments often end in shutdowns, defensiveness, or unresolved tension, it can indicate incompatible communication styles.
“If combined with your partner avoiding the deeper or more open conversations, could indicate that they might not be the one for you in the long run. Healthy relationships require a shared willingness to listen, adapt and grow together.”