Couples in happy relationships reveal just how often they have sex

A series of happy couples have revealed exactly just how often they have sex - and the results are hugely varied.

Sexual activity is an important part of a relationship, but there is not a specific amount of sex that determines if a relationship is happy or successful.

Every couple is different and the meaning of 'regular' can differ hugely for every person. While some couples prefer to having sex multiple times per week, others may be happy doing it one a fortnight, or even every month.

“Sex can be an important part of a healthy relationship, but it’s not a total barometer for relationship health or satisfaction, and a sole focus on regularity of sex tells us nothing about the quality or satisfaction of those having it,” says Kate Moyle, a psychosexual therapist for Lelo.

“While there are well-documented health benefits of sex, such as neurochemical release and an increased sense of closeness, this is moderated by the sex being wanted and enjoyable.

What 'regular' means can be different for each couple (Getty Stock Image)

"Often couples who feel emotionally close report getting more from sex, and vice versa: when sex is good, they feel more connected and closer.

"There is a bi-directional relationship at play, but there is no universal benchmark or standard to aim for – your sex life is impacted by everything else in your life," she adds.

So, how often do these couples have sex?

The findings that came from the selected couples were hugely varied, with factors such as work, kids and lifestyle all impacting their sex lives.

One couple, both aged 32 and in an eight-year relationship, said they tend to have sex once per week, but this can change depending on their schedules, with 'hectic periods' seeing them go around two weeks without any intimacy.

Some couples prefer having sex less frequently (Getty Stock Image)

In contrast, Elizabeth, 59, and Aaliyah, 54, who do not live together and have been together for 18 months, said they have sex over four times per week, with 'one quality session' taking place while their children are at school and 'quicker sessions' taking place at other times.

Having sex once per month is more than enough for Jessy, 32, and Steven, 46, who attribute their lack of intimacy to working 'crazy long hours'.

The amount of sex isn't a 'reflection of the love we have for one another'

They added that they don't feel it is a 'reflection of the love we have for one another'.

Some couples feel the volume of sex they have isn't a reflection on how much they love one another (Getty Stock Image)

For most of the couples, it seemed that how often they have sex fluctuates a lot, largely due to life getting in the way - but fitting it in first thing in the morning was a popular compromise.

Sexologist Dr Tara Suwinyattichaiporn highlighted the problems with trying to have a regular sex schedule.

"Many factors come into play when it comes to reduced sexual frequency in relationships such as familiarity, lack of prioritisation of sexual intimacy, children, workload, stress level, finances and sick family members, to name a few."