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Topics: Sex and Relationships
Callum Jones
A dating coach has detailed a 'three-second rule' which she claims will help a person become more 'memorable' to those they meet.
Relationships are tricky to maintain once you have one, but what about getting one first?
When pursuing that special someone, there are a few things to remember. For example, if you get to the first date, what questions should you never ask?
And what mistakes should I avoid making? Or is texting someone at the start a good idea or not?
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However, it's always the very first impression that can get things off to a good start, and according to Australian-based matchmaker Louanne Ward, there is a simple method you can take to make yourself more appealing instantly - and it takes just three seconds.
"Are you killing your own attraction powers without even realising it?" Ward asked on her Instagram account.
"Rushing conversation to fill silence. Thinking more about what you want to say next rather than listening. Fast movements or fidgeting. Simple things added up are attraction blockers."
Thankfully, there's a simple way to fix it, and it involves a simple '3-second hack that makes people see you as more attractive, more charismatic, and more memorable', Ward states.
Known as the 'pause and hold' technique, you're going to want to 'pause' for three seconds when you enter a room, meet someone new, or start speaking.
Ward went on to say you then want to 'hold eye contact' before looking away, followed by another pause as you proceed to answer the question.
"Let a moment breathe instead of rushing to fill it," the hack ends with.
So, why does this work?
Well, the dating coach explained: "Pausing shows confidence. People who rush seem nervous. A slight pause signals certainty.
"Holding eye contact builds connection. Just 2–3 seconds can make someone feel an instant pull toward you. It makes people lean in. When you don’t rush, your words carry more weight."
Ward added: "Most people never use this because silence feels uncomfortable. But the moment you learn to own it, you change the way people see you forever.
"And this is just one small piece of what makes attraction effortless."
And if you manage a first date after all of that, there's certain topics you'll want to stay clear of.
Speaking on behalf of FruitySlots.com, relationship expert Jacob Lucas told UNILAD: "Politics is a touchy subject. You probably shouldn’t talk about this on a first date — it can get too heated.
"Second, don’t talk about your ex, people aren’t on a first date with you because they want to hear about your ex.
"It also suggests you might not be over them either."