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Niamh Shackleton
A relationship expert has revealed how long you should be waiting to sleep with someone if you're wanting your relationship to last long-term.
In this day and age, a large majority of people are finding their new partners through dating apps like Tinder, Hinge, or Bumble, and after connecting on such apps, the usual intention is to then meet face-to-face.
Now, you might fancy the pants off your date and be keen try before you buy after a successful first date (if you catch my gist), but relationship expert Jacob Lucas has urged singletons to hold fire when it comes to bedding their suitors.
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Before you even get to that point, however, you usually need the first date itself to go well.
With this in mind, speaking on behalf of FruitySlots.com, Jacob shared what topics he thinks people should stay clear of on a first date.
"Politics is a touchy subject," he told UNILAD. "You probably shouldn’t talk about this on a first date — it can get too heated."
He continued: "Second, don’t talk about your ex, people aren’t on a first date with you because they want to hear about your ex.
"It also suggests you might not be over them either."
Now, suppose politics and exes aren't brought up in conversation and the date goes well, should you sleep with them after the first meet up? Jacob says no.
Instead, he suggests a three-date rule.
"Sleeping with someone on the first date can sometimes put you in a tricky situation," the dating guru, who boasts over 100,000 followers in his Instagram page, shared. "If you have a really strong connection with someone on the second date, then it could go either way. The third date is quite traditional."
So keep it in your pants, folks.
However, Jacob did warn that if you wait too long to have sex with someone you like, it may put too much pressure on the first time you eventually sleep together, or it might lead to you friend-zoning your date.
In some additional advice, he also gave tips on red flags to look out for on someone's dating profile.
It was reported in 2022 that over 13 percent of those using online dating platforms got engaged to or married a person they met on the apps, said Tawkify Matchmaking – so don't give up on romance just yet, my fellow singletons.
But how do you find your future spouse in the midst of all the millions of people on dating apps? Well, there's a handful of things to that are supposedly dating profile no-gos.
Listing them, Jacob revealed: "When they don’t put what they’re looking for [on an app]; a person often does this so they can tailor the situation to whoever they’re talking to and make out like they want the same thing, this is the most common one."
Another red flag was overly filtered photos.
"A lot of people do this," he shared. "Then they meet and it’s obvious they don’t look the same, and it’s sort of semi-catfishing."
He also warned relationship hopefuls to be wary of people who only share group photos on their profiles, men who share topless photos, and someone not having a bio as it suggests that they're 'someone who doesn’t really care about getting to know people very well and isn’t interested in making an effort'.
May the odds be ever in your favor, friends.