Dating expert reveals the top five signs your partner is cheating
A dating expert has revealed five signs to look out for that may indicate your partner is cheating on you.
No one wants to find out that their other half is cheating, but unfortunately it's a situation that people find themselves in all too often.
There's no way to avoid getting hurt if your partner has been unfaithful, especially if it seems like other people know before you do.
However, Claire Rénier, dating expert at real-life dating app happn, has shared five signs that you can look out for that may suggest your partner isn't being completely honest, which may help the truth come out.
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Before we dig into the warning signs, it's worth noting that everyone is different, and these signs aren't a sure-fire indicator that you're being cheated on.
But it's always good to be aware, and to be able to start a conversation if you're concerned.
Secretive with their tech
If your partner has previously been pretty open with their phone or laptop, it's worth being aware if they suddenly put in a passcode, or get cagey if you try to take a look.
Rénier also pointed out that if they previously 'didn’t always have their phone attached to their hip, but are constantly on it now', it's worth thinking about the reason why.
"If they’ve changed their passwords, are now less likely to leave their devices lying around, or quickly take their device out of your hand if you’re passing it over or checking something on it, this could potentially be an indication they have something to hide," she said.
Change in behavior
Humans are often creatures of habit, so Rénier noted that a 'significant and consistent' change in behavior or routine may be a sign that 'something isn't right'.
She explained: "There may be patterns emerging that are different to before. For example, if they’re constantly working late, have unexplained absences and are away more frequently without explaining this or talking to you about it, it’s worth a chat."
On the flip side, Rénier said that your partner's behavior may change in an apparently positive way, saying: "If your partner is suddenly showering you with excessive attention or gifts, when they didn’t previously, it could be an indicator of something not being quite right. "
Greater emotional or physical difference
As much as they might try to hide it, Rénier explained that people who are cheating are 'more likely to take a step back from their relationship with you'.
This may present as being 'less affectionate, more critical, or even less interested in physical intimacy', as she added: "Even if they’re still physical, they may emotionally distance themself by spending less quality time, having conversations or doing things together."
Unusual change in finances
It's common for people in longer-term relationship to have an idea of their partner's finances, for example through a joint account, so if you suddenly see unexplained cash withdrawals or a decrease in shared funds, Rénier recommends having an honest conversation with your partner about what's going on.
Increased interest in their appearance
Rénier further pointed out that it's common to 'dress to impress' in new relationships, so a sudden determination from your long-term partner to always look their best could be a red flag.
The expert said: "If you’re already in a committed relationship and your partner suddenly changes their attention to their looks or is hitting the gym more, it could be that they’re trying to reignite the attraction and spark in your relationship, or it could potentially indicate that they’re trying to impress someone else."
While signs are always useful to be aware of, Rénier recommended 'trusting your gut above all else'.
"You know your relationship and your partner better than anyone, and if you feel that something is off, listen to your instincts and have a conversation with them about how this is making you feel," she said.
"Similarly, it’s important not to be paranoid about every little sign and warning - your partner could genuinely just be changing their behaviour and growing into a different person as time evolves. It doesn’t always mean they have an ulterior motive."
Topics: Sex and Relationships
Emily Brown