Psychologist explains the trait that can make or break feelings of attraction
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A psychologist has revealed what factor is often the be all and end all when it comes to finding someone attractive.
So, do you want to find out how to be the most attractive you can be? Well, unfortunately you have less control over it than you might think.
Florida psychologist, Kelsey Latimer, tells the Huffington Post there are 'many theories in terms of factors that can enhance level of attractiveness', many of which are 'surrounded by cultural aspects'.
Latimer explains 'generational trends' and 'ethnic differences of preferences' as well as 'evolutionary factors such as 'curviness' in women noting fertility', and 'proximity factors indicating we are attracted to what we see most' all play a role.
But no matter what you wear or what you're 'exposed to' by the world around you, ultimately, there's one factor which tends to be valued a lot higher than anything else.
Can you guess what it is?
Latimer says: "Consider this: have you met someone that you might have considered average in physical appearance and then, after getting to know them, you suddenly realized they have a great smile or beautiful eyes?
"That’s not a coincidence. Personality absolutely can change the initial feeling of attraction for the positive or negative."
Trained body language expert Blanca Cobb adds: "Confidence in the way one speaks and acts can be appealing. Charisma can captivate someone’s attention because it reflects charm, magnetism, and social intelligence. An undervalued characteristic of sexiness is kindness, which reflects compassion, empathy and sensitivity, where the other person feels cared for and loved, which helps strengthen an emotional connection."
But ultimately, Cobb notes 'sexiness is in the eye of the beholder'. So, if someone doesn't find your looks or personality attractive, well, it is what it is.
As Ariana says, 'Thank you, next'.