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Psychologist explains the trait that can make or break feelings of attraction
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Published 12:17 13 Nov 2023 GMT

Psychologist explains the trait that can make or break feelings of attraction

Unfortunately you have less control over it than you might think.

Poppy Bilderbeck

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Poppy Bilderbeck
Poppy Bilderbeck

Poppy Bilderbeck is a freelance journalist with words in Daily Express, Cosmopolitan UK, LADbible, UNILAD and Tyla. She is a former Senior Journalist at LADbible Group. She graduated from The University of Manchester in 2021 with a First in English Literature and Drama, where alongside her studies she was Editor-in-Chief of The Tab Manchester. Poppy is most comfortable when chatting about all things mental health, is proving a drama degree is far from useless by watching and reviewing as many TV shows and films as possible.

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A psychologist has revealed what factor is often the be all and end all when it comes to finding someone attractive.

With scientists creating 'chemical cocktails' to reverse the effects of ageing and cosmetic procedures on the rise, being considered more attractive is on the forefront of many people's minds.

So, do you want to find out how to be the most attractive you can be? Well, unfortunately you have less control over it than you might think.

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You may believe you have to dress differently, put on some makeup or spray a new perfume to amp up the more people finding you attractive, but it's actually not that simple.

Florida psychologist, Kelsey Latimer, tells the Huffington Post there are 'many theories in terms of factors that can enhance level of attractiveness', many of which are 'surrounded by cultural aspects'.

Latimer explains 'generational trends' and 'ethnic differences of preferences' as well as 'evolutionary factors such as 'curviness' in women noting fertility', and 'proximity factors indicating we are attracted to what we see most' all play a role.

But no matter what you wear or what you're 'exposed to' by the world around you, ultimately, there's one factor which tends to be valued a lot higher than anything else.

Can you guess what it is?

What do you think the most important factor of finding someone attractive is?
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If you're just a rampant Tinder swiper, it may've slipped your mind, but personality is actually the most important aspect to many people when trying to figure out if you find someone attractive.

Latimer says: "Consider this: have you met someone that you might have considered average in physical appearance and then, after getting to know them, you suddenly realized they have a great smile or beautiful eyes?

"That’s not a coincidence. Personality absolutely can change the initial feeling of attraction for the positive or negative."

Trained body language expert Blanca Cobb adds: "Confidence in the way one speaks and acts can be appealing. Charisma can captivate someone’s attention because it reflects charm, magnetism, and social intelligence. An undervalued characteristic of sexiness is kindness, which reflects compassion, empathy and sensitivity, where the other person feels cared for and loved, which helps strengthen an emotional connection."

But ultimately, Cobb notes 'sexiness is in the eye of the beholder'. So, if someone doesn't find your looks or personality attractive, well, it is what it is.

As Ariana says, 'Thank you, next'.

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