Expert shares the 4 things you should 'never' do in the bedroom with your partner

An expert has shared the four things you should 'never' do in the bedroom with your partner that could potentially kill the mood.

There is no rulebook to this whole relationship thing, though there are certainly things you can do to keep things on track and maintain that all important spark.

One of them being how you act in the bedroom, and one sex therapist has detailed how doing four specific things when doing the deed can kill any sense of intimacy.

Vanessa Marin, based in California, has garnered close to one million followers on social media by providing unfiltered sex and relationship advice to those who may require it.

The expert has shared the four things you should 'never' do in the bedroom (Getty Stock Photo)

One particular video detailed the things you should 'never' do in the bedroom with your partner, with Marin captioning the clip: "After two decades in the sex therapy field and working with thousands of couples, there are certain things that I will not be doing in our relationship."

Husband taking the lead

Marin began the video by explaining that she never lets her partner take the responsibility for initiating ‘simply because he’s the man'.

Research has found that men are more likely to initiate within a relationship, but Marin explained how both sides taking it in turns to take the lead can result in a more dynamic and even happy relationship.

Guilt

Sometimes people aren't really in the mood to get in-between the sheets, and Maid revealed how she doesn't make her partner feel guilty if he's not feeling it.

Azizeh Rezaiyan, a fellow US-based therapist, had similar advice, saying as per the Mail: "It’s easy to read into things, assuming your partner is cheating, or not attracted to you, but that’s not a rabbit hole worth going into."

Bringing guilt into a relationship is never a good thing (Getty Stock Photo)

Communication

Being able to talk efficiently with your partner is crucial to the success of any relationship, and that includes what goes on in the bedroom.

Marin went on to say she often speaks up about her desires even if there's the chance of upsetting her partner.

I mean, honesty is the best policy, right?

Blame game

It's certainly not uncommon for it to go wrong in the bedroom, though Marin has said she will never maker her partner feel ashamed or blame him for performance-based issues during sex.

The therapist also went on to say she avoids crying or throwing accusations about in such a scenario.