Polyamorous quad break down how their unconventional four-way relationship works
A polyamorous quad have detailed how their unconventional relationship works amid their hope to legally marry one day.
Tiffani Nicole, 29, Jiselle Alexa, 23, Hammy Kendra, 29, and Raymond Anthony, 34, met on Twitch in 2020 and immediately bonded over their love of gaming.
Their friendship grew to the point where they began constantly messaging and would video call every evening.
Tiffani suggested in 2021 their dynamic resembled a polyamorous quad – a romantic relationship involving four people.
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Later on that year, the quad met in person for the first time and made the relationship official after getting on like a house on fire.
Come February 2022, they moved in together in Baltimore County, Maryland, and since then have had date nights and intimacy as a group.
Jiselle told PA Real Life the relationship isn't the 'unlimited sex fest' you may expect, and there's actually a lot of similarities to the traditional romantic relationship.
"We’ve come across so many people online that think it is a fetish, but it is not this unlimited sex fest that you think it is," she said. "I think the idea of being polyamorous arouses people, but after you do something sexually with people, you still have to live with each other, pay the bills, cook dinner – it’s not just intercourse."
Jiselle continued: "You have to be in this type of relationship because you want to, and it’s based on love and friendship.
“It’s not all sunshine and rainbows – we have disagreements like any other relationship, it’s not anything major, but it happens.”
After moving in together, the quad realised their relationship needed to be 'rooted in strong communication' for it to work.
Explaining how they do that, Raymond said: "We don’t split bills equally, we do it equitable based on who makes what in the house and adjust based on the money earned.
"I always tell people that we have foursomes, threesomes, twosomes and onesomes. It’s what you’d expect, it’s not foursomes or threesomes all the time, it’s just whatever we feel like doing."
Raymond added: "There is no planning – first of all, I’m completely turned off by that, so it really comes down to, you’re in the mood, I’m in the mood, you’re also in the mood, OK.
“It’s not always like that – if one of us had a long day, we won’t participate.”
While they have intimate moments, the 34-year-old explained how each of them has their own bedroom, allowing for some alone time in their own space.
Heading into the future, the quad are hoping society are generally more accepting of their type of relationship and want to see a day where they can legally get married.
"I would say I do wish that it would be easier to get married," Hammy told PA Real Life. "It’s a lot of work to even get the power of attorney as a four."
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Callum Jones