Couple who started a swingers club reveal controversial rule for 'ugly' members
A British couple who started a swingers club have detailed a rule for new members they deem as 'unattractive'.
Tanya and Ashley Marum tied the knot in 2019 and started swinging just a few months later so Tanya could explore her bisexual side.
The couple initially started 'playing' with women at swingers clubs, but quickly started interacting with couples after they discovered it was mainly a couple-based scene.
But after struggling to find people they were attracted to, Tanya and Ashley set up their own events company where people apply online to get involved.
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"I think it's strengthened our relationship emotionally and sexually," Tanya, from Leeds in the UK said.
She continued: "The original attraction was to explore being bisexual and look for women originally. Ash said 'if it's something you want to explore we can explore together and see'.
"We played with girls for a long time but eventually started playing with couples because it's a predominantly couple-based scene.
"It's just such an accepting community of people. It's fun and it's not all just about sex that people imagine."
The couple have set-up events for other like-minded young people in the community, and have had to set ground rules for people they see as 'unattractive'.
Ashley said: "When we found it hard to consistently meet people that are our age or that we like we messaged people on a website and we said 'why don't we all meet in town for a drink'.
"We liked it so much that we said 'let's do it again next month'.
"Now we have events with 300 plus people going and we make people apply on the website so we know what they look like."
He continued: "I don't want people there who the majority would think are unattractive.
"We want to try to get people to come that they might not be your type but they're nice looking and take care of themselves.
"It's the most expensive hobby ever but we get free tickets to everywhere anytime we want. It's made it a lot cheaper to go out."
Ashley went on to say the couple's swinging lifestyle has done wonders to their relationship as it has allowed them to become more honest with each other.
"Our trust has increased by swinging. Every couple we know that does it feels exactly the same," he added.
"There's 100% trust and you understand what each other likes more than anything and you want each other to be as happy as possible.
"You don't get that very often in a normal relationship."
Topics: Sex and Relationships
Callum Jones