Developing suspicions that your partner is hiding something from you can be an incredibly difficult moment in any relationship, but short of hiring a private investigator, it is not always easy to spot the red flags of infidelity.
Maybe they are spending more time away from you than before, have become more argumentative when you ask them questions, or even just seem distant when they were once affectionate.
These can be indicators that your partner is straying, or just that your relationship is going through something of a rough patch, and jumping in with an unfounded accusation can be an easy way to start another row.
However, a self-proclaimed dating coach has laid out an extremely simple question that you can ask your partner to figure out if they are cheating, and it isn't their answer that gives them away.
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The apparent dating coach, going by the name SeduceCleopatra, says: "It’s not a trap. It’s not interrogation. It’s one calm, ordinary question:
"'Is there anything you’re hiding from me right now?'"
This direct question allows you to control the direction of the conversation and gauge how they react. The dating coach explained: "A loyal person doesn’t panic. They might be confused. They might ask why.
"But their body stays calm."
However, a person with a guilty conscience is unlikely to react this way to a question they would not have prepared for. They added: "A cheater reacts differently, and it’s almost AUTOMATIC."
This can play out in a number of ways, according to SeduceCleopatra, and each of these ways can reveal more than the cheater wants to give away.
These giveaways include:
- They get defensive instead of curious
- They flip the question back on you
- They laugh it off too quickly
- They accuse you of being insecure
- Or they turn cold and shut down
And the reason for this is quite simple, this question should only be hard to answer if they're hiding something.
The coach added: "Not because the question is unfair.
"But because it touches the one thing they’re managing constantly: CONTROL. Cheating isn’t just about actions. It’s about maintaining a double reality.
"So when you ask a direct, open question without emotion, the mask slips, even for a second."
It is worth remembering that a poor reply does not mean that you should instantly sack off your partner and assume they are cheating on you. Sometimes people have a bad day, or are simply caught off-guard by a direct question.
The coach also said: "This doesn’t mean every defensive reaction equals cheating. But consistent avoidance, aggression, or blame-shifting is never a good sign."
Topics: Sex and Relationships
William Morgan