Topics: Tinder, Sex and Relationships, Life
Anyone who has attempted modern day dating will tell you it's not for the faint of hearted.
From being ghosted to being over zealous with your right swipes, dating apps in particular can be a difficult thing to navigate when you're looking for love.
Whether it's a short term thing or your future spouse that you're on the hunt for, there are some ways that could help you on your quest for love.
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The first thing you need to tackle is a first date - something which some people find even more nerve-wracking than a job interview, according to Metro Online.
With this in mind, Tinder has issued five key pieces of advice to those who are going on a first date to help you bag a second, based on data the app captured last year.
Tinder has urged people to be their authentic self when on a first date, that way the other person can weigh up if they're right for you (and visa versa).
"Being your unapologetic, authentic self can help you find a person who can appreciate you for who you truly are, and it’s always worth ‘decoding’ the messaging habits of your match to see if they’re really a good fit for you," says body language expert Adrianne Carter.
"If they’re not, don’t be afraid to honestly, and politely, tell them it’s not working."
Tinder has found this to be its second most important dating rule as it shows that you want to explore a real connection with your date and get to know them better.
Backing this, studies have found that asking more questions increases your chances of getting a second date. 2017 data showed 'having a deep conversation' and 'asking good questions' as some of the top behaviors that contributed to a second date, Psychology Today reports.
While it's good to be open and honest with your date, there is such a thing as oversharing.
You might think that it's showing your vulnerability, but some feel it shows you don't know boundaries.
In addition to this, you could come across as self-centered if you're only talking about yourself and not asking your date any questions.
This could apply to many aspects of life, as well as dates. Whether you're with your mom, your date, or your boss, it's seen as rude if you're on your phone while someone is talking to you.
Snubbing someone to look at your cell (also known as 'phubbing') can cause an array of issues. Emma Seppälä, a psychologist at Stanford and Yale universities and author of The Happiness Track, told TIME: "[Phubbing] can severely disrupt your present-moment, in-person relationships."
She added that if someone is on their your phone in front of you it means they are 'prioritizing something else over you in those moments of togetherness'.
Being rude to staff is said to be a huge sign of what someone is really like.
A previous survey of 2,500 people by It's Just Lunch, a dating service for professionals, found that being rude to waiters ranks as the worst in dining etiquette.
Known as 'The Waiter Rule', it can be used in most aspects of life.
Former Raytheon CEO Bill Swanson, who coined the term, said: "A person who is nice to you but rude to the waiter, or to others, is not a nice person."
He added to USA Today: "Be especially wary of those who are rude to people perceived to be in subordinate roles."
