Bride-to-be leaves people divided after saying she 'hates' ring her fiancé 'spent 3 months designing'
She said she is 'grateful', but it's 'so not me'
A woman admitted online to hating the engagement ring her fiancé designed—and it’s left social media users divided.
People have different preferences for engagement rings, but what would you do if your fiancé had spent three months designing your engagement ring, only for you to end up hating it?
Sadly, that’s the predicament one woman has found herself in, and after posting about it to social media, she has been met with a lot of different opinions.
The woman, who was not named, began by asking for help, telling Facebook: “I hate my ring.”
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Posting two images alongside her plea for help, the bride-to-be said that the ring was something she’d never have chosen for herself.
She said: “My fiancé blindsided me with a proposal. I am so grateful for the gesture, but I hate the ring.”
The woman explained that although she ‘thought it would grow’ on her, after a week of wearing it, she just couldn’t stand to look at it.
The fiancée shared that she hates it so much that she gets ‘sad every time I look at it’ as it’s ‘so not me’.
Describing how the ‘round shape, halo, the pave band’ were the opposite details she would have chosen, she continued: "It’s upsetting me that he never asked me or my friends what kind of ring I like. I changed my nail shape from square to accommodate the design, thinking if I have round nails, I’ll like a round ring more. Didn’t work.
"What now? Should I suffer in silence? I pretend being happy every time he mentions how “beautiful” the ring is. I’m scared he’ll get very offended if I bring it up. He said he spent 3 months designing the ring."
She then opened the floor to any advice, and people were ready with their answers.
Some thought she should have been grateful, as one person said: “If he designed it specifically for you, I think you learn to love it, based off the effort and thought he put into it. Time. Money. Etc. just start mentioning an anniversary ring & drop hints on design ideas,” while another said: “Either fishing for compliments or just super ungrateful. I couldn’t imagine being upset if my husband planted a rock like this on my hand.. spending 3 months planning this out?!?”
Someone else commented: “My fiancé got my ring from Amazon & I couldn't be happier. Be grateful for what you have.”
However, there were those who agreed with her dilemma.
Detailing their parent's engagement, one commenter said their dad had proposed to their mom with 'a ring he designed, branch designs, a diamond and the birthstones of their children, and she hated it'.
After wearing it for a day, she handed it back to him, and although he was 'offended', he still 'went with her the same day to pick one she liked and they have been happily married for 18 years and have 7 children now', adding: "If he loves you enough to ask, he loves you enough to listen."
Meanwhile, another said it was her ring that she is 'gonna wear for the rest of your life'.
"It should be about YOU and what you like, not him. Exchangeeeee ittt!! If my man got me this id want to switch it too." they continued.
What do you think?
Topics: Weddings, Sex and Relationships, Social Media
Britt Jones