
Topics: Sex and Relationships
A 30-year-old virgin who feels 'a little bit disgusted' by the idea of sex has explained why she intends to remain celibate.
Speaking to Metro, Callie*, who resides in the UK, describes herself as a ‘heterosexual romantic asexual’. Asexuality is a sexual orientation characterized by little to no sexual attraction to others.
Asexual people can experience attraction to other people, in the form of romantic attraction, while they can also have intimate relationships.
Callie told Metro that she has no plans to lose her virginity, saying: "I’m happy for others who are enjoying a sexual lifestyle. But I’d like my sex life to be non-existent.
Advert
"I would just prefer to be with someone without the pressure of having to be intimate."
Discussing her sexual orientation further, Callie added: "As a romantic asexual, I know I want to be with someone. I just don’t want to have sex with them. And in this day and age, why shouldn’t that be okay? Often you hear of people no longer having sex and being fine with it.
"Relationships become like a Will & Grace set up of best friends living together and not jumping each other’s bones. So why can’t I have a relationship like this too?"
Advert
Callie went on to say that the struggles come to fruition when she scrolls through social media and sees photos of some of her pals loving life with their partners.
She added: "I just don’t know where someone like me is in a world full of sex. It makes me feel like I’m in a limbo of forever being alone and seeking that soulmate I’ve always dreamed of."
While documenting a typical 'week in the life' for the Metro, Callie explained how she is using dating apps in a bid to find love - but she quickly noticed there are few apps dedicated to asexual people.
Advert
"I find myself looking up how I can make an app or business to solve this issue," she said. "Seeking out a crowdfunding page, full of facts and figures oddly brings me more excitement than the actual prospect of meeting someone. Whoops!"
While Callie may be looking for love, she went on to say that documenting her life has made her realize 'being a romantic asexual virgin is perfectly okay'.
She concluded: "Right now, I’m ready to just see what happens. There are plenty of Ryan Gosling’s in this world, who may just be romantic asexual like me."