Woman shares 'traumatic' results of embarking on a 'year of casual sex' with different men
Warning: This article contains discussion of sexual assault which some readers may find distressing.
A woman has opened up about the 'traumatic' results after she decided to embark on a year of casual sex.
When Kitty Ruskin embarked on a year of casual sex she did so hoping that she would find some sense of liberation.
Unfortunately, things went extremely wrong during that time with Kitty ending up having some horrible experiences. She was sexually assaulted on two separate occasions.
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Kitty wrote about her experiences in a new book called Ten Men: A Year of Casual Sex
and shared how she had set out, versus how things had actually turned out.
Explaining that she had lost her virginity at the age of 22 and felt like she had 'missed out' on years of casual sex as a result.
So, in an effort to feel 'fearless' and 'liberated', Kitty embarked on a year of casual flings.
She began her year in 2019 with a decision that she would 'stop being so precious about who she had sex with'.
Kitty revealed that she had been inspired by the promiscuous Samantha Jones from the movie Sex and The City.
Writing for the Daily Mail, she said: “I decided to have sex with as many people as I wanted to.
“No more guilt. No more self-loathing. No more self-limitation. I was liberated and fearless. I was Samantha.”
This idea unfortunately soured quickly.
Kitty revealed that one man she had gone home with had BDSM equipment at his home, which he then 'proceeded to use on her without prior discussion.'
She had also slept with a PhD student in an encounter which left her 'fragmented and nauseous and confused.'
On a second date she revealed that he had also choked her without her consent.
“It probably only lasted a couple of seconds, but they felt agonisingly slow," she said.
“I couldn’t breathe, and my feet weren’t quite on the floor.”
Things continued to worsen after she allegedly had a drink spiked in a bar.
An unknown man had taken her back to his home 'although she was far too drunk to consent', where he 'had unprotected sex with her.'
Describing the impact her experiences had on her, Kitty said: “My mind was slow to accept that my body had been raped because of self defence.
“After something traumatic happens, you don’t want to acknowledge that it’s happened. You don’t feel ready to face it, or capable of admitting it.”
She finished by addressing men directly, writing: “Men: let’s take the problem of rape culture off the back burner.
“Let’s pull it down from the shelf and look at it, even though doing so might make you feel uncomfortable. Guilty, even.”
She added: “It may make you feel uneasy, but women are tired of shouldering all this fear and trauma."
If you've been affected by any of the issues in this article, you can contact The National Sexual Assault Hotline on 800.656.HOPE (4673), available 24/7. Or you can chat online via online.rainn.org
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