Topics: Celebrity, Jennifer Lopez, Ben Affleck, Sex and Relationships
Jennifer Lopez wasn’t afraid to get candid about the difficulties she faced in her relationship with Ben Affleck in a new interview.
The relationship of Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck was filled with mystery for months before it was confirmed the pair were actually getting a divorce.
Lopez was previously married to Ojani Noa, Cris Judd and Marc Anthony before tying the knot with Affleck in Las Vegas in July 2022 before going on to have a more lavish affair in Georgia in August.
Exactly two years on from their Georgia nuptials, Lopez filed for divorce after months of speculation that she and Affleck had split.
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In the filing, Lopez cited 'irreconcilable differences' as the reason for the divorce.
In a new interview with comedian Nikki Glaser, Lopez opted to get into the details of the relationship, explained what she has learned and what she hopes for the future.
Likening the breakdown of her marriage as an exploding and burning house, she said she was now looking inward at how to move forward.
She said: “When your whole house blows up, you’re standing there in the rubble going, ‘How do I not ever let that happen again?’
“And then you start examining it little by little saying, ‘OK, I did this, this was my part in it, this was what I should have seen early on, this is what I didn’t look at.’ Those things are what really are the lessons.”
Speaking on her failures, Lopez candidly added: “You have to be complete, if you want something that’s more complete. You have to be good on your own.
"I thought I learned that, but I didn’t. And then, this summer, I had to be like, 'I need to go off and be on my own.' I want to prove to myself that I can do that.”
She admitted that doing this was very ‘f***** hard’ and it came with its own difficulties, like loneliness.
However, the music star is optimistic about her future and the growth she intends to have now being single.
She said: “It feels lonely, unfamiliar, scary. It feels sad. It feels desperate. But when you sit in those feelings and go, 'These things are not going to kill me.'
"It’s like actually, I am capable of joy and happiness all by myself.
“Being in a relationship doesn’t define me. I can’t be looking for happiness in other people. I have to have happiness within myself.
"I used to say I’m a happy person, but was still looking for something for somebody else to fill, and it’s just like, ‘No, I’m actually good.’”
