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Topics: Sex and Relationships, Social Media, Twitter, Parenting, Health
Poppy Bilderbeck
Topics: Sex and Relationships, Social Media, Twitter, Parenting, Health
People are flooding to social media in outrage over digital creator Elijah Schaffer warning 'more harm than good' comes out of men watching their partner give birth.
The fact he runs a podcast called Slightly Offensive With Elijah Schaffer doesn't even begin to scratch the surface of the host giving his - very much unfiltered - views on more controversial topics.
And one topic Schaffer recently decided to pick apart on his Twitter is the subject of childbirth.
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Schaffer took to his account on October 10 to share what he already anticipated would be an 'unpopular opinion'.
He tweeted: "I do not think men should watch the baby come out of their wife like this. Totally can ruin sex lives and poorly change dynamics of seduction etc between spouses.
"Seen more harm than good come out of this. We need stricter gender divides. Stop doing this."
Schaffer added in the comments: "The hospital puts a cuck chair in the corner for a reason."
And it hasn't taken long for people to weigh in.
One user wrote: "Huh? Seeing your child born is not traumatizing, it's amazing. I've played catch for three kids and it hasn't changed anything except increased my love for my wife who went through incredible sacrifice to bring our kids into the world..."
"I watched all three of my kids. Still think my wife's sexy," another added.
A third commented: "I disagree, that moment is what separates boys from men. Watching it made me a. increase the amount of respect for my wife due to work and pain she endured to get to that moment and b. looking into my kid’s eyes for the first time was absolutely priceless."
"What the f**k is wrong with you?" a fourth said.
And a medical journal has even highlighted the positives which can arise out of a man being present at the birth of his child on both him, the other parent, and baby.
An article titled Fathers attending the birth of their baby: Views, intentions and needs - published in Anzjog - looks into how paternal involvement during birth can impact all of those involved in the process.
Not only can a dad being there while the baby is being both lead to 'positive outcomes' for the mom including 'a reduction in labour length, decreased emotional distress and reduced pain medication', but it also 'promotes paternal–infant attachment, a positive childbirth experience and an easier transition to fatherhood'.
While it notes that it's not always suitable for a father to be present at the birth and they may choose not to be, ultimately, nowhere does it mention a father ending up feeling less attracted to their partner as a result of having been involved.