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Topics: News, US News, Sex and Relationships, Michelle Obama
Gerrard Kaonga
Topics: News, US News, Sex and Relationships, Michelle Obama
Michelle Obama has issued some relationship advice on her podcast and not everyone agrees with her take.
Recently speaking on her podcast, Michelle Obama tried to offer some words of wisdom when her brother Craig Robinson, who she co-hosts the podcast with, read out a question from a listener.
A woman detailed that she has been dating a man for a year and as his current lease is ending he asked if they could move in together, him only being able to cover $500 a month in rent while she covers the rest.
The person asked how to deal with an early relationship with uneven financial footing.
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Admitting that her answer may be controversial Obama said: “If its early in the relationship you shouldn’t be moving in first of all. I don’t care how much money he has or doesn’t have, you don’t know him yet.
“Maybe this will be controversial but I think you can have deep like at first sight but love to me in most instances, it takes time.
“For someone to reveal themselves to you over time to know whether or not your affections and feelings stand the test of time.
“My recommendation is always take some time, make moving in like way down the line.”
While many people on Reddit appreciated what Obama was trying to say, they also made it clear that most people didn’t have the money to be flexible when it comes to moving in together.
One user commented: “I get what she's saying but many people are having to make these types of rush decisions because of the insane cost of living and/or not being in good situations to start.
“Ideally people would have the freedom of choice but living as a couple in a one bedroom is so much cheaper and can be less stressful than splitting rent and space with friends in a multiple bedroom or renting with roommates you don't know in communal living.
“The world she is giving advice on is outdated and not where most people are at today.”
Another added: “Yeah… the affordability crisis, esp rent, has really limited the freedom of young people’s lives… it’s like people have to make tough choices because of the economy and their financial situation. Sure would be nice if the govt could do something about that. Thanks Obama”
A third wrote: “I agree and at the same time I don’t lol
“It’s nice to live alone for few years after moving from family just to focus on yourself but at the same time moving in together shows things you can’t see even when you otherwise won’t see
“Also obviously it’s expensive to live alone so very rarely people can do that.”
Some users did argue that moving in with a partner to save money was ill advised but noted that it was a crucial step in a relationship. Many users spoke of getting to understand their partner better, their habits, their real personality, after living with them.
They emphasized that living together doesn’t allow a partner to hide away their potentially red flag flaws the same way dating can.