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Topics: Sex and Relationships, Celebrity, Science
Ella Scott
Topics: Sex and Relationships, Celebrity, Science
A top New York divorce lawyer has detailed the key differences between men and women when it comes to cheating, as well as their opposing reactions to discovering infidelity.
Survey results published earlier this year stated that around half of people in married relationships cheat on their spouse at least once during the course of their partnerships.
While some do the deed because of anger or a lack of self-esteem, others claim it is because they’re suffering from a lack of love or because they are seeking sexual pleasure and variety, as per Vogue.
When it comes to divorce, infidelity is often cited as a major cause.
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According to the Law Offices of Sacks & Sacks, cheating or extramarital affairs in the United States accounted for 59.6 per cent of divorces.
One man who has helped both men and women through numerous divorce proceedings is James Sexton, a Diary Of A CEO podcast regular and New York native.
In October, the attorney spoke to LADbible Stories and took part in the YouTube channel’s Honesty Box series.
Over 31 minutes, Sexton answered various questions about divorce, offering insight into how both women and men cope as their marriage falls apart.
Toward the end of the conversation, the lawyer explained that in his opinion, both sexes practise infidelity differently.
“I would say in my experience, men cheat more but women cheat better,” the law expert stated.
“Women go big or go home, you know. Men just like to do dumb s***t a lot of the time.”
Sexton further revealed that not every instance of cheating is the same, remarking that a ‘dalliance’ is a lot different compared to a full-blown affair.
He also explained that men and women react to finding out about infidelity differently, too.
“I’ve said it before, although it’s not a popular thing to say out loud, when a man finds out that his wife cheated, his first question is ‘did you f**k him?’.
“When a woman finds out her husband cheated, the first question is usually ‘do you love her?’.”
Sexton remarked that those two reactions ‘say a lot about what happens in these dynamics’.
“Because the question is, ‘What does this mean to you? Does this person mean more than I do?’ versus ‘Has this person like taken my property? Has this person touched my property?’.
“So it says something about our sort of internal biases about how we approach our spouse and approach marriage.”
You can watch the full Honesty Box episode with James Sexton on the LADbible Stories YouTube channel now.