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15 things you should never do in a healthy relationship
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15 things you should never do in a healthy relationship

These are some of the things you should avoid doing if you are in a healthy relationship

Maintaining a healthy relationship can take a lot of work - even if you are the most star-crossed of lovers.

Luckily, there are a few things which you should avoid if you want to keep things ticking over nicely in a relationship.

From the downright obvious to the more subtle, these are a few of the things that you should avoid doing if you want a healthy relationship to remain that way.

And of course, a relationship is a two-way street so both partners should be working to keep things going smoothly.

So let's begin with 15 things you not do in order to have a healthy relationship:


Let's start with the obvious one, cheating is bad. No excuses. It's a betrayal of trust, don't do it.

These are some things to avoid when maintaining a healthy relationship.
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Neglecting friendships

Getting into a new relationship is exciting, but can sometimes become all-consuming.

Keeping up with friends is still very important even if you have met the love of your life - which leads us onto our next point...

Losing your own sense of yourself

This can tie back into friendship, but it's important not to become just one half of a relationship.

This could mean having alone time or having hobbies outside of your relationship.

Putting everything else before the relationship

However, this is not to say that you shouldn't also prioritise the relationship as well.

Finding that balance is a crucial part of it.

Failure to maintain a healthy relationship could lead to arguments.

Not putting effort in

Relationships are not like those sealed biomes filled with plants, they're not self-sustaining.

That means putting in effort to the relationship - which can be anything from planning out birthdays and anniversaries or organising a vacation for the two of you.

Keeping a score and holding grudges

Your relationship is not a competition, you're not trying to 'win', you're there for each other.

Not supporting your partner

This should be a no brainer but you need to be there for your partner, whether that means celebrating their achievements or helping them through difficult times.


Yes, it might be tempting to go through someone's phone, but this is also a big breach of trust and disrespectful.

Becoming desensitised to someone

Relationships do change. You can't be in the honeymoon stage for years on end, that's not sustainable.

However, that doesn't mean that you should start taking them for granted.

Relationships require maintenance.
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Taking stabs at each other

This is a surefire way to make sure that you can't even get through a conversation without someone being passive aggressive, not a good sign.

Comparing your partner

Whether it's to previous partners or anyone else, you should love and appreciate your partner for who they are.

Trying to change them

Tying back into the previous post, you shouldn't try to mould someone into who you want them to be.

Love them for them.

Forget them

This might seem obvious. It's understandable that other things will come up in life, but you still need to make time for them

Bringing the past up

This is a big reg flag in an argument, as it shows that you are unwilling to forgive things, especially if it's something relatively small.

Ignoring or dismissing problems

Even the very best relationships run into challenges.

Ignoring or dismissing them won't solve them, it will just make them grow so it's even worse when they finally bubble over.

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