'Hotwifing' explained as experts issue urgent warning about psychological dangers of sex trend
Topics: News, Psychology, Sex and Relationships
Niamh Shackleton
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Topics: News, Psychology, Sex and Relationships
A new sex trend is supposedly saving peoples' marriages, but experts have warned that it's not for everyone.
There's always new trends going round in the world of all things intimacy, one being shibari.
But now, another sex trend that's increasing in popularity is something called 'hotwifing', and it might either save your relationship or completely destroy it.
You've probably heard of hot-desking, right? This is the idea that people in an office space don't have a specific desk, and simply share the resources so people can sit where they like, when they like.
'Hotwifing' is somewhat the same, but instead of sharing a desk, people are sharing their wives...
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Basically, it's where a wife has sexual experiences with another man with the permission of her husband or partner.
One guy who has let his wife partake in the unconventional trend described it as being like 'letting your friend test drive your car', per Mail Online.
"He gets to see how well it rides. He’s got to give it back, but it creates a sense of pride. You get a little taste of what my life is like."
Some find that 'hotwifing' has reinvigorates sex lives, promotes emotional growth, and increases a person's confidence (particularly women).
It could be sexual dissatisfaction or emotional disconnect that pushes couples to try it in the first place.
Priyanka Kapoor, Psychotherapist, Psychologist, Sex Therapist, Couple and Family Counsellor, from Mumbai, told NDTV: "Sometimes, issues like erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation in men may lead to such arrangements. In other cases, it's sexual boredom that motivates the shift."
While some have praised 'hotwifing' for saving their relationships, experts have warned that it can go 'horribly wrong'.
Dr Neetu Tiwari, MD Psychiatry at NIMS Medical College and Hospital, said: "Like any kink, hotwifing can be very pleasurable — and very intense. But it can also go horribly wrong. Especially when emotions like jealousy and resentment enter the picture."
Kapoor added: "In some cases, women may become emotionally invested in the new partner. Women often connect through personality, humour, or lifestyle, not just the physical.
"If the emotional bond develops, infidelity starts — even if it began as consensual non-monogamy."
As a way of ensuring this doesn't happen, the experts advise that you have open discussions with your partner before partaking in 'hotwifing', for example discussing the prospect of one of you developing feelings for someone other than your partner.