A woman who was unable to get pregnant after years of trying is finally having a baby, with the help of her 51-year-old mum.
Breanna Lockwood and her husband Aaron hoped to have a baby shortly after they got married in June 2016, but soon came to the heart-breaking realisation that might not be possible when their attempts to conceive proved difficult.
After months of trying, the couple decided to seek help from a fertility clinic in Illinois, where it was recommended they should begin fertility treatment. They did, but unfortunately their pregnancy journey wasn’t a straightforward one.
Tragically, Breanna suffered two miscarriages and later developed Asherman’s syndrome, a condition that’s acquired from scarred tissue in the uterus.
It’s at this point her doctor, Dr. Brian Kaplan, a board-certified reproductive endocrinologist at Fertility Centers of Illinois, suggested surrogacy. The problem that solution presented, however, was that it would cost the Lockwoods almost $100,000.
So Breanna’s mum, Julie Loving, offered them another solution by volunteering to carry her grandchild for them. And although her daughter was reluctant at first, Julie eventually won her over.
‘I kind of felt like I went through this with her from the beginning,’ Julie told OprahMag.com. ‘I felt all of her grief and her struggle. I knew that I was healthy as a 51-year-old, and I knew I could do this for her, I took good care of myself. I actually don’t feel 50, I feel 30!’
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When she brought her mum in to visit Dr. Kaplan during one of her appointments, Breanna noticed he expressed some hesitation. ‘I could see a look in his eye and I could see his wheels beginning to turn a little bit,’ she remembered.
However, Julie soon exceeded all expectations by passing a series of tests, including ones that measured her cholesterol. She also underwent a range of psychology tests and had bloods taken. Soon after, the mother and daughter were given the go-ahead.
Dr. Kaplan described it as a ‘very unique scenario’ that was only done after ‘very careful personalised medical, psychological and ethical considerations’. He added: ‘The family dynamic, unconditional support and sacrifice and the resilience of the human spirit was humbling for me as a physician.’
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you ladies heard it first! but announced today on our personal page. This was a big step for me. Thinking and praying for each and every one of you! They say, “It takes a village to raise a child”, but for some it can take a village to HAVE a child… ⠀ ⠀ We are happy to announce, finally, …⠀ BABY LOCKWOOD IS ON THE WAY! ⠀ ⠀ Made with a lot of love, and a little bit of science…⠀ Baby Lockwood will be brought into this world via GESTATIONAL CARRIER, and this little miracle’s carrier is quite a special one. ⠀ ⠀ MY MOM.⠀ My mom will be carrying and delivering our baby!⠀ ⠀ The biggest supporter in my life is giving us our biggest blessing. My beautiful mama is carrying her first grandchild, Aaron and my biological child, as a gestational carrier!⠀ ⠀ Aaron and I had our reproductive DNA taken, fertilized, tested, and frozen via IVF, as my mom breezed through every preliminary test she took, to be able to give us this gift. Defying the odds at 51 years old, she’s pushing reproductive science out of the box, as ONE of only a handful of surrogates NATIONWIDE to deliver their grandchild via gestational surrogacy!⠀ ⠀ The trials and tribulations of infertility was undoubtedly the hardest venture we have had to face in our lives. ⠀ ⠀ In short that included…⠀ ⠀ 1311 days⠀ 476 injections⠀ 64 blood draws⠀ 7 surgical procedures ⠀ 3 rounds of harvesting eggs⠀ 19 frozen embryos ⠀ 8 IVF frozen embryo transfers total⠀ 4 failed embryo transfers⠀ 1 singleton miscarriage⠀ 1 twin miscarriage ⠀ 1 ectopic pregnancy ⠀ Countless tears⠀ ⠀ Sharing this adventure with my mom has been the most unique and amazing experience. Surrogacy is truly the most selfless gift. She is the pure example of “you would do anything for your kids”, and if i can even be half of the mother she is, I know i’m doing something right…⠀ ⠀ I want to give a special thanks to Dr. Kaplan with @fertilitycentersofillinois for his compassion and care in this field.⠀ ⠀ Baby Lockwood we can’t wait to meet you…⠀ See you in November!
Julie is now acting as Breanna and Aaron’s gestational surrogate, meaning she’s carrying the couple’s biological child and her biological grandchild. ‘No doubt, no regrets, I would do that. I love her so much I just wanted to help her,’ she said.
Now, the family is sharing their story with Breanna’s 34,500 Instagram followers, with Breanna saying:
I decided to go public with everything to celebrate my mum and everything she has done… I kind of always thought it was going to happen really quickly. You spend your whole life preventing and when you stop to preventing, it doesn’t happen right away.
I really struggled with talking about it; it put a strain with family and friends and your marriage. It’s something that really rocks someone’s world.
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Friday we went to check up on our little baby. Sadly my husband can’t attend many appointments because of the new rules with the virus, but we always try to take pictures and video of everything. We got this awesome picture of our little one in 4D! AND we know the gender!!! Do you think this babe is a sweet little boy or girl!?
Now, 21 weeks into the pregnancy, Breanna says she’s finally allowing herself to get excited after years of disappointment and heartbreak. Just last week, they felt the baby kick for the first time and found out they were having a little girl.
Aaron – who Breanna calls the most laid-back, easy-going husband – has always believed ‘it’s going to work’, and even though he’s unable to attend the appointments at the moment because of the global health crisis, he’s been working on their baby’s nursery.
And as for Julie, she says she’s excited to carry a child again and has described the pregnancy as pretty easygoing – although she sometimes feels tired.
Our thoughts are with this incredible family as they continue on their pregnancy journey, and we wish them and their unborn baby every health and happiness.
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