Man Wears High Heels To Work Because It Makes Him Feel ‘Invincible’

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An Aussie businessman has brought an air of sass to the corporate atmosphere he works in.

Ashley Maxwell-Lam, 30, wears a smart classic suit and tie, but it’s his stiletto heels which make him stand out.


Already towering above most people at six foot, Ashley adds another six inches in heel. No wonder it makes him feel powerful, ‘confident and strong’.

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Ashley was talking to a female colleague who was already very tall and wore heels as well, and was inspired after she said the heels empowered her.

Speaking to The Project, Ashley said:


So I went to a shoe store, tried them on and it was as if a lightbulb just switched on.

I felt confident, I felt invincible, I felt empowered, like I could take on anything and do whatever I wanted.

I knew I was going to wear them to work, so I wasn’t really asking permission, I was telling her ‘this is what I’m doing’, but it was a little bit scary.

A lot of people have a work identity and then a home identity, but I don’t feel the need to be different in the office.

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Speaking to, Ashley continued:

Who decided at what point in our human evolution that high heels equal woman and flats equal men?

It acts as the best ice breaker, if I know I’m going into a meeting with new business partners or stakeholders, I’ll generally make sure I wear an outfit where I can put my heels on.

I don’t want to be a woman, I love being a man. I just love the complete contrast between masculinity and femininity. It makes people question things, just because he’s gay and wears nails doesn’t mean he doesn’t know how to use a chainsaw.” (Which he can and has used, he insists.)

My mother taught me to be resilient — I have a thick skin. You have to take the good with the bad; you do get people who look at you with disgust but mostly it’s curiosity.

A lot of people, especially young girls, will also stop me and have photos.


The gay community haven’t been that supportive of Ashley’s powerful move in the workplace, and he said that the majority of verbal judgement he receives is from people in his ‘own community’. Not that it stops him at all.

Ashley now owns nine pairs of heels, four for work and five for pleasure, and wears them to work three times a week

As for the pain, he just said ‘Of course they hurt, but don’t they look good?’

Topics: Life


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    He’s a corporate man in a corporate world. But Ashley Maxwell-Lam has found something a little different to help his confidence reach greater heights.

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